On Marriage...

One of the things about festive occassions is the increased interaction with your relatives. And when you are a single guy, the one topic that's on everyones mind is, Marriage!

Know they all mean well, and they would want me to be happily settled with a nice girl and all..

But I can't really do this marriage thing just for the sake of it. Just because I am 28 and it will be difficult to find girls afterwards!

I would rather marry when I find someone with whom I share something meaningful and beautiful. Someone I would want to spend a lot of time with. Someone with whom I have a lot in common and who shares my thoughts and interests.

Love should be effortless. You just look at her and you just know. It's something just very natural. I don't know why people want to define it, philosophise it, romanticise it or even demean it.

People ask me what is my criteria, what is that am looking for in a girl. Frankly speaking, I don't know. People are not a sum total of their hobbies and appearances. So on what do I define any criteria at all. I don't have any criteria for the girl I want to be with. When you love someone, you are in love about everything that they are, every small tiny little thing. Any predefined criteria about how someone should be goes for a complete toss. And so I don't keep any expectations of how she should be.

Thankfully Dad and Mom are not in a hurry. They just want me to be with the one I would want to be. And like all things in this world, that will happen when it has too. In its own sweet time.

Mother Mary

Mother Mary, originally uploaded by Aroj.

Mumbai Sunset

mumbai sea 169, originally uploaded by Aroj.

On Photography

Got myself a new DSLR recently, Nikon D5000. That one decision has set me on the road to learning photography and mastering my camera. And its turning out to be quite an awesome journey.

It's the same for all things, when you attempt to learn something new, you go through a journey.

From the exciting beginnings, to the confusion and desperation, to the sudden insights and then the feeling of content, only to realize that there's so much more that you didn't know and that there's so much more that could make a lot of difference. This journey never ends.

I look at those pros, and think, damn when will I ever be able to take snaps like them. But I know I have something in me. I know that when I read these articles and rules on how to take good snaps and realize that I already knew these things intuitively. Nobody had told me these things and yet I knew. It feels really great when you see that what you always knew, is mentioned down as a rule for other people to learn.

I take my camera along everywhere I can. Every week I learn something new. I think at this point in time I know most of the things. And its more practice that's going to lead me higher.

No, I don't just want to take pictures for fun. I want to take pictures that will blow your mind away. Make you say "Wow!"

Am not there yet, but that's the journey am on.

I see dead people...

Ok, now don't jump of your seat, I haven't gone pyscho.. :-)

But I love this line from the Sixth Sense. I just feel that, I tend to see things differently from most people. I can see things that others somehow can't. I mean be it at work or otherwise, I tend to have a different perspective, something other's hadn't thought of.

Like sometimes I see a movie and like it, only to know the others thought it was a horrible movie :-) Just that I could see what the director meant to portray..or maybe I interpreted it differently..

I just happen to see things differently..like my eyes being fitted with a different camera..a different view :-)

Unlike the boy in the Sixth Sense, I think this a blessing, I can see things that others cannot.:-)

Timeless

Attempted a poem after a really really long time..for a friend's birthday...

For somethings are timeless.

The picture that you take,
the painting that you make,
the poems that you write,
the words that rhyme,
and the thoughts that flow,
the song that you sing,
All that an act of creation,
an expression of self,
the wonder in that, truly yours
and yours alone.

Our hobbies and our passions enrich us, define us, make us grow.
So this birthday, here's hoping, you are inspired to 
to pick up a new hobby and or liven up a long forgotten one.

And so these books,
Not a rulebook,
but an inspiration;
- to more things timeless.

The German goalkeeper's suicide...

His widow Teresa said she had hoped her love would help her husband pull through his crisis.

"I tried to give him hope again, to show him that football was not everything, that we had each other," she bravely told a press conference through the tears.

"I was always by his side: I believed, with love, we could pull through this.

"But football meant everything to him."

http://www.matthewyglesias.com/world/1174-germany-goalkeeper39s-suicide-came-after.html

I feel deeply saddened by this news. The day's paper had news about two other suicides as well. Both young boys, who had taken their lives. One after being punished by his teacher. Other after failing his exam.

It's even harder, seeing his wife talk on television, trying to hold back the tears. When you think of all the pain he's had to go through, he lost his two year old kid to a heart infection, you think, it must have been really really difficult to continue to go on.

But when you have someone who loves you and is there to be by your side, how then can you take your own life? That's something I am finding it so hard to understand.

I have always felt that, when someone is at a point where he is thinking of ending his life, all he needs to know is that he is invaluable to someone. It's only when they are convinced, that it would matter to no one, no one at all, if they were not to be there any longer, then and only then can they take that extreme step of taking their lives.

All those people who take their lives, I wish they knew they were not as alone as they thought themselves to be. And I wish strength to the people around them. May they inspire them to see the beauty that is there in life. Even when their share of pain is more than what they should have had.

But unfortunately, love alone was not enough for him. It is indeed work that gives our life meaning. And what happens when you lose that? Can love help tide you over?? In this case though, it couldn't. And that saddens me a great deal.

I wish his widow peace and the will to live, it's going to be even more harder for her to live without him now, but she has to, for her child.

Can't believe it..

That my last post was almost an year ago! You mean a year's gone by so fast?
And that I haven't written anything at all!

As another birthday looms near :-), I realize, I have to get back, to what I once loved doing...

So heres hoping, that I am back to writing..!