Sunday, December 27, 2009

On Marriage...

One of the things about festive occassions is the increased interaction with your relatives. And when you are a single guy, the one topic that's on everyones mind is, Marriage!

Know they all mean well, and they would want me to be happily settled with a nice girl and all..

But I can't really do this marriage thing just for the sake of it. Just because I am 28 and it will be difficult to find girls afterwards!

I would rather marry when I find someone with whom I share something meaningful and beautiful. Someone I would want to spend a lot of time with. Someone with whom I have a lot in common and who shares my thoughts and interests.

Love should be effortless. You just look at her and you just know. It's something just very natural. I don't know why people want to define it, philosophise it, romanticise it or even demean it.

People ask me what is my criteria, what is that am looking for in a girl. Frankly speaking, I don't know. People are not a sum total of their hobbies and appearances. So on what do I define any criteria at all. I don't have any criteria for the girl I want to be with. When you love someone, you are in love about everything that they are, every small tiny little thing. Any predefined criteria about how someone should be goes for a complete toss. And so I don't keep any expectations of how she should be.

Thankfully Dad and Mom are not in a hurry. They just want me to be with the one I would want to be. And like all things in this world, that will happen when it has too. In its own sweet time.

2 comments:

Dewdrop said...

Thank god your mom and dad are soo supportive. And you know what? No matter what ever you think about the person whom you want to be with, you will end up falling in love with someone whom you least expected it to happen. :) I think thats the beauty of it. Hope you find that someone special soon.

Aroj said...

Yes, thats always true, isnt it?! :-)